10 Ways to Handle Conflict

Maintaining composure is one of the hardest things to do especially when one is on the verge of  “blowing their top”. Having the ability to do so can help in achieving success in professional and personal affairs. The following tips can help you assure that you keep your cool as far as your relationships are concerned.

1. Communicate negative emotions personally or through the telephone

Electronic mails, leaving messages on answering machines as well as notes may be impersonal in terms of the complexity of negative comments.

2. Follow your reply with emphatic words

Use words of understanding if you are looking for a way to reach a compromise or agreement with the other party.

3. Recognize when you feel vulnerable by what the other person is communicating to you

As much as possible, avoid becoming defensive or disagree with what the other person is trying to communicate with you. This is the kind of attitude that makes an open and trustworthy communicator.

4. Learn to make requests when you’re angry

Most often, it is more helpful to practice requesting rather than to be angry.

5. Practice the mirror technique

When the tension is high or when you totally disagree with what the person is saying, try repeating what the other person is saying. In this manner, both you and the other party can keep focus in the delicate matter, especially when you are aiming to gain an understanding of a different perspective.

6. Be responsible for whatever you feel rather than put the blame on the other person

In order to ease the tension and conflict, bear the burden of the situation rather than point a finger to the other party.

7. Be a good listener especially if you are mediating or giving advice

Take both sides into consideration objectively and constructively so as to find a peaceful resolution to the conflict at hand.

8. Be creative and flexible in handling the highly tensed situation

At all times, maintain your self-control in handling conflicts. This will help you maintain your composure and poise in highly-tensed situations.

9. Let the conflicting situation cool down if it makes you angry or intense

With considerable amount of time, you would have cooled down and cleared your mind to be able to handle the issue objectively and clearly.

10. Observe proper decorum and etiquette whenever you are in rage or frustrated

If you have the tendency to lose temper or flare up immediately, people will have the notion that you are a very dangerous person or they will not be safe with you. Because of your predictability, people will always try to protect themselves when being with you. This will not be healthy in your aim to achieve corporate or inter-personal relationships.

Following these tips can assure harmonious and peaceful relationships with other people.

9 Things To Let Your Light Shine In 2009

Guyz, below is a great motivation tips of Mrs. Pauline Lewinson that gladly shared to us. Check it out.

 1. Make the decision and determination to do what it takes to let your light shine.

2. Do self-examination to see what you need to do.

Ask yourself questions such as who am I really? What am I here to do? Am I satisfied with my work? Am I satisfied with my life the way it is? What do I need to change and how can I change these things? If you feel stuck while trying to answer these questions, seek divine intervention. That is always a sure way to get your questions answered. Self-examination will help you begin to think outside the box and have the freedom to allow transformation in different areas of your life. You might see some frightening things that you really need to change, but feel the fear and do it any way. Come up with a plan and set realistic and achievable goals. You can begin by writing down one or more things that you would like to accomplish in the next 30 days, for example; I wil lose 5 pounds. Or those you would like to accomplish in the next 90 days. You can set long term goals. Be mindful of the time you have set to complete your goals and work diligently to accomplish them within those time frames.

3. Embrace your passion, your desire, your purpose, your calling or your assignment, whatever you may call it.

What is it that you love to do and would do even if you did not pay for doing it? If you can pin point this one thing and begin to take it seriously; to own it and act upon it, you would be surprised to see what happens and you will be well on your way to letting your light shine.

4. Change your way of thinking.

Being aware of battles that go own in your mind and taking those thoughts captive is very important to your transformation. As you well know our minds can really trip us and if we are not careful or take it seriously you could spend a lot of time focusing on the wrong things, such as the unpleasant memories of your past. One of the first changes you must make is to take every thought captive, control your emotions and take authority over the battles of your mind.

5. Get out of the mind-set of thinking that you have to be an employee for the rest of your life.

I know you may feel comfortable and secured in your job, as I did, but there are no guarantees, especially in these tough economic times when so many people are loosing their traditional jobs. There is a call for creativity. You must find your essence; your unique self and bring it to life so you can fulfill your destiny. Please don’t go to your grave without tapping into that power that lies within you, waiting to be exhaled. You can do it! I dare you!

6. Begin with the end in mind.

To keep in mind you must write things down. When we try to commit things to memory we get distracted by all the things that we have to do in our busy lives and we soon lose our focus from the main thing.

7. Invest in yourself and your future and expect the unexpected.

Know that nothing is free. Do your due diligence; find people who are skilled in the areas in which you are weak and pay them to do those things that are necessary to get you where you want to go. A coach or a mentor is a must. There is no Plan “B”, so go ahead and execute Plan “A”. Do your research and increase in knowledge and wisdom. The Internet is a wonderful tool; use it.

8. Focus your intentions on your goals and do not give up until you succeed.

Just be aware that detractions, disappointments, trials and tribulations, stumbling blocks; you name them, they will come, but if you remain single – minded and focused nothing can stop you.

9. Get help.

If you know you have been struggling with moving a head then find people who are doing what you would like to do, who are where you want to be or where you know you should be. Let them mastermind with you and assist you with strategies that you can implement as you attempt to move beyond the barriers that get in your way of succeeding and living life to the fullest. Apply these 9 steps and let your light shine in 2009.

7 Essential Ways To Help Avoid Panic Attacks

Are you looking for the ways to help avoid panic attacks? If the answer is yes, then you have landed in the right place. Panic attacks are avoidable if the proper planning is carried out. Your first panic attack should be a learning curve that can help you avoid panic attacks in the coming future.

A panic attack is an unexpected onset of extreme anxiety followed by fearful anticipation. This is accompanied by dizziness, a rapid heartbeat, nausea, shortness of breath, a tingling sensation, hyperventilation, and other related factors.

Panic attacks are usually caused by various mental, emotional and physical stresses in everyday life. They seem unavoidable, but thankfully there are things you can do to help avoid them.

Following, are 7 essential ways to help you avoid your panic attacks:

1. Avoid Caffeine and Alcohol

One of the best ways to avoid panic attacks is to keep away or minimize your consumption of caffeine and alcohol. Studies have revealed that these vices increase the occurrence of panic attacks and Anxiety.

2. Regular Yoga and/or Meditation

Practice some yoga poses such as Flamingo poses, Locust poses, Backbends yoga, Inverted yoga, and others on a regular basis to keep your mind and body healthy. Yoga and meditation does not only help you avoid panic attacks, but also increases energy levels and awareness.

3. Relaxation

We all know that stress and anxiety is a major contributor of panic attacks. So staying relaxed would obviously help to avoid them. To overcome such situations simply follow these easy and effective steps:

Take time out to enjoy activities that engage your mind. Whether it be a much loved hobby or even a walk in the park, it all helps!

Perform some breathing and stretching exercises during stress and anxiety to calm your body and mind right down.

Commonly, stress is known to circle at a time of loneliness. So if possible, keeping in touch with your friends and family can help to avoid panic attacks.

4. Laughing/Humor

Humor is one of the most useful ways to avoid panic attacks – Many psychiatrists recommend the sufferer to use laughter and humor to decrease stress and anxiety.

5. Music

It is always good to keep an MP3 player or ipod with you whenever you are on a trip. Listening to upbeat, feel good music keeps you busy and occupied, thus keeping you from stress and anxiety.

6. Ample Sleep

The adrenal system of the body helps in controlling response activities. Insufficient sleep can lead to the adrenal system to stop working properly and hence, cause panic attacks. Therefore, it would be better to take at least 7 hours of sound sleep per night to help avoid panic attacks.

7. Healthy Eating

‘Eat healthy live healthy’. Making a habit of eating a healthy diet will help to keep away all worries and stresses. A well balanced diet helps you to nurture your mind and body while also making you feel happier.